melissawilliams

Jake was EXTRA lazy this morning.  He layed around instead of getting ready, I had to stay on him to brush his teeth and he refused to eat breakfast.  The breakfast issue has been a problem since school began.  He is suddenly not hungry in the mornings and after checking with his teacher, I just send him to school with fruit.  His studies aren't suffering, according to his teacher.  My point is, on a good day, he is tough to get motivated, after scraping himself yesterday, he has really milked it for all the attention it's worth.  I've kept my eye on him and have not seen any indication of a concussion, so I planned for him to go to school as usual.

Well, as I said, he was really pouring it on thick this morning and I knew he wanted to get out of going to school.  On the way to school, he started saying that he saw black dots in his eyes and felt like he was going to throw up.  I said, ok then!  We're going to the hospital!!  NOOOO!!! he said.  Of course you are!  You can't have such serious symptoms and not go!.. and  we argued about THAT too.  I decided this would help two situations:  One, I would have my conscience clear and two, he would learn not to exagerate his symptoms unnecessarily.  He paniked from fear that the staff would laugh at him and cried and begged me not to take him there, to let him go to school instead.  No way..we went to the emergency room.

There was some discussion about whether to accept in the first place or not, but eventually, they did.  He may have had a very mild concussion yesterday, but he is fine today.  Surprise!  Afterwards, I took him to the bus, so he could rest at his dad's and told him that I loved him.  I explained how important it was to explain accurately what is happening in his body and life because it can set in motion things you can't always stop.  You can get mad or want to stay home or whatever, but you have to always be honest so we can help him, be there for him and make him feel better if something ever happens. 


Since, I don't over-dramatise things when kids fall or hurt themselves, it is possible that I can miss things.  Like once, He fell on his arm.  It hurt but it just looked he had sprained it.  He even used it, but complained a week later.  I didn't think too much about it.  I have done that 1000 times in my life and wasn't rushed to the hospital, but his dad took him and you guessed it, there was a hairline fracture.  Jake had a cast or a month.  I felt like a big jerk.

Is tough to know 100% of the time what to do with your kids. 

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